Entrepreneur Wives

Guest post from my fiance @lindsay273

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I recently discovered a guilty pleasure of mine is the show “Basketball Wives”. I started thinking that there is something to be said for Entrepreneur’s wives, future wives and girlfriends. Entrepreneurs are very unique and special individuals. They are self starters, they are motivated, intelligent and they do not let anything get in their way. The women that stand beside them must be supportive, inspirational, intelligent and understanding. I feel there is something truly to be said about a man who can start something from nothing, watch it grow and then provide their own livelihood. It is so easy to go out and get a job working for someone else to collect a paycheck, the hard road is to pave that road yourself and make your own footprints.

I am 25 years old and I have been with my Fiance’ David for over 5 years. We recently got engaged and are getting married next April! I love David with all my heart and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for him but being by his side through his ups and downs has been a challenge. One day David decided to move to Orlando to attend and graduate from UCF and also to place himself in a better city for entrepreneurship. This was a major decision for his life and it turned out to be such a positive move for him. He won two business plan competitions, made incredible connections, gained a lot of respect and got footing for himself in an unknown city. For me, this move was devastating. I had to stay behind in Pittsburgh to finish college while my man moved to Florida. At the time I couldn’t understand how he could just leave me. But as I stated above, a true entrepreneur doesn’t let anything or anyone get in the way of their dreams. We did the whole long distance thing and then it came time for me to make a decision. Do I stay in PA with my family, friends, my life etc.. or do I move to Florida to be with my man? Of course I moved to be with Dave. This was extremely hard for me because I never pictured myself living in a different state than my family and friends but I knew Dave wasn’t coming back to Pittsburgh anytime soon and I believed in our relationship. I did what had to be done, packed up and moved. I am thankful that Dave didn’t give up on me because it took me a full year to stop getting extremely home sick and I was a handful.

As time evolved and I became adjusted to the move I really got to see first hand the beauty of an entrepreneurs work. I cant even count the number of ideas, projects and visions that Dave has shared with me. You always hear about women who are looking for a meal ticket in this world or more commonly known as “gold diggers”. If you are with your man and can support them when they are selling cds in the hood or working at a department store and then continue to support them when they are calling you from their private plane while you are on the yacht, that is love. Being with an entrepreneur can be just as stressful and more worth than an NBA wife, rapper wife or whatever. Our men work long hours, they travel a lot, they may not have much time to help you with certain things (wedding planning) and Im not even going to acknowledge infidelity issues that you always hear about involving men with money because that has nothing to do with your occupation, that has to do with your relationship and respect. If a women is not supportive of their entrepreneur man, the relationship is never going to work. We also have to be extremely understanding and most importantly just always there for them. Their careers are always going to be up and down, hopefully more ups than downs of course but no matter what we are to always be there. In this life you could be worth 3.2 million one day and the next -3.8 million.

I think that it is so important for our men to know that no matter what, we are here for you. Whether you’re poor or rich, its me and you always. I don’t come from a family of entrepreneurs. My father is an extremely intelligent engineer, my mother is in real estate and I work as a Physical therapist assistant. This is a whole new life with totally new challenges but if you have the man that you want to spend your life with in the driver seat, let him take you for the ride. “Nobody said it would be easy, they said it would be worth it”.

Well done Linds!

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55 Comments

  1. Entrepreneurs are the key and self motivated people who can direct the company in the right direction. It’s good to have a women that is so supportive.

    Keep it up

    Jacob Luis

  2. Great post. I could not agree with you any more. Husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved us, and should constantly tell them how much they mean. Don’t let life get in the way of the truly important things.

  3. I started my business with an ironing board for a desk and a milk crate as my office chair! I’ve been married for nearly 23 years and sent my wife through a lot of which you did not put in print, however I do believe you are going through or have been through. I requested to be friends with Dave based on his business achievements! Those who start businesses tend to gravitate to one another.

    I encourage you to do “you”. It is apparent that Dave is going to take care of the rest. I don’t know him personally, but through his work and those who talk about him, such as yourself, I believe you can rest assured that he is a man of his words. Therefore continue your efforts to do what it is that you love and watch that man of yours, support “you” in dynamic ways.

    Cheers to you both!

  4. I really enjoyed this post. I did come from a good background and saw how my Mother supported my Father in his business. There were a good team and the fact that they were a team allowed them to accomplish great things!

  5. Absolutely brilliant and relevant writing. So often we executives are heads down that we forget the sacrifices and support that our significant other give us in order to focus on work. Great post.

  6. In today’s society, many husbands and wives are also married to their careers, which can make it difficult to maintain a healthy and happy marriage.

  7. We also know very little about how running a family business or working in one affects the family life of minority ethnic groups, despite the higher incidence of self-employment among them.

  8. Thank you so much for the comments! I am so glad that you all found this relevant and enjoyed my thoughts on this subject.

  9. I need respect, and to be really listened to. John Gottman, a noted marriage researcher, lists “men’s lack of willingness to listen to and be influenced by their wives” as a frequent problem in marriages he sees.

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  11. Great post. I could not agree with you any more. Husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved us, and should constantly tell them how much they mean. Don’t let life get in the way of the truly important things.

  12. Fully agree with you David. There’s always a woman behind every successful person. Entrepreneur are most experience persons because they have satisfaction in their every field from family to business. They know better how tackle with every problem.

  13. These days, very few people know how to fix anything in their own house. A friend of mine blew out my wife’s car battery because he didn’t even know how to set up jumper cables….

  14. Times of transition can be difficult— starting a business, changing careers, etc.

    Having someone by your side during these times of transition is very important

  15. I love to see when a woman dominate the man in their business field. These days women are more successful in business field and setting new landmark daily. Becoming business tycoon in such less time.

  16. I agree with you that the situation is scary. As you know I am an entrepreneur. I believe that giving out money to bail out a bad deal is probably the worst thing a President of a company can do.

  17. Round of applause. I too am a daughter of an engineer. After leaving GE, my father began paving the path as an entrepreneur that you described. My mother lived first hand the life of an entrepreneur’s wife. She was strong willed, as you seem to be, and stood by his side has he took her for a roller coaster ride of ups and downs as he built up his company. To be the wife of an entrepreneur takes a special kind of woman. You have done an excellent job spot lighting the type of woman it takes to stand by their entrepreneur. They essentially keep them grounded and emotionally supported. You are very lucky that you are aware of your priorities and have the strong heart to stand by them. Cheers! and best wishes.

  18. Lindsay, what a fantastic article you’ve written, I am 23 myself, still single for the time being, I hope to have the type of relationship that you have in the near future. I always considered myself an entrepreneur, and would love to be in a supportive relationship 🙂

    Till then,

    Jean

  19. In ten years, I can guarantee you will not think “dang, I wish I would have worked more”! You will wish you had more family time if you waste it now.

  20. I have been married for nearly 23 years and sent my wife through a lot of which you did not put in print, however I do believe you are going through or have been through.thanks..

  21. I have been married for nearly 23 years and sent my wife through a lot of which you did not put in print, however I do believe you are going through or have been through.thanks.. 😉

  22. Great post. I could not agree with you any more. Husbands should love their wives the way Christ loved us, and should constantly tell them how much they mean. 🙂

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  30. I just stumbled across this article about entrepreneur wives. I too am one myself and trust me it’s not easy! My then-boyfriend and I went to the same college but he moved away after graduation to pursue his dream of becoming an entrepreneur while I stayed back to finish my degree. After I graduated, I too had to make a decision between my family and moving to be with him. Of course, I chose the later and we’ve been happily married for four years now. It’s tough being an entrepreneur wife. It includes being thrifty during startup, giving up certain things, having his Blackberry as the third wheel, and postponing vacations, etc… big props to you!

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